Blowing off some steam. Another way of controlling your anger is by getting the anger energy out, blowing off steam. These techniques are especially helpful when you are in the crisis phase of the anger cycle. The following are some constructive ways of blowing off steam. Number one: screaming. If the place would allow it, screaming can help release the tensions and frustrations that come with anger. Think of a thing that angers you the most, build momentum, and let it out in one big shout. You may also scream out the words you wish you could say if the venue was appropriate. The louder the scream, the better. Number two: physical activity. Many people find exercise, sports, dancing, and even just pacing about as effective ways to vent anger. This makes sense. If the fight-and-flight response gears a person for physical action, then physical action might indeed be the best way to deal with the anger. Physical activity is also believed to release endorphins, our natural mood regulators. Number three: pillow punching. The need to fight back may be channeled through punching pillows. Pillows provide a safe way to release tensions. It’s safe not just for the object of the anger, but also for oneself. Related techniques include wringing out towels and breaking old plates. Number four: writing. If physical activities are not your thing, you can blow off steam by expressing your thoughts and feelings in writing. You can write in an unstructured way, simply putting on paper the first thing that comes to your mind. You can also be more creative about it and channel your anger through poetry or song. Number five: singing. Here’s a new one. Vent your anger by going to your nearest videoke or karaoke bar. Many people find singing therapeutic, especially if the song lyrics and melody matches one’s mood.
